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A
few months before I was born, my dad met a stranger who was new to our
small Tennessee town. From the beginning, Dad was fascinated with this
enchanting newcomer, and soon invited him to live with our family.
The
stranger was quickly accepted and was around to welcome me into the
world a few months later. As I grew up I never questioned his place
in our family. In my young mind, each member had a special niche. My
brother, Bill, five years my senior, was my example. Fran, my younger
sister, gave me an opportunity to play 'big brother' and develop the
art of teasing. My parents were complementary instructors -- Mom taught
me to love the word of God, and Dad taught me to obey it.
But
the stranger was our storyteller. He could weave the most fascinating
tales. Adventures, mysteries, and comedies were daily conversations.
He
could hold our whole family spell-bound for hours each evening. If I
wanted to know about politics, history, or science, he knew it all.
He knew about the past, understood the present, and seemingly could
predict the future. The pictures he could draw were so life like that
I would often laugh or cry as I watched.
He
was like a friend to the whole family. He took Dad, Bill, and me to
our first major league baseball game. He was always encouraging us to
see the movies, and he even made arrangements to introduce us to several
movie stars. My brother and I were deeply impressed by John Wayne in
particular. The stranger was an incessant talker. Dad didn't seem to
mind -- but sometimes Mom would quietly get up -- while the rest of
us were enthralled with one of his stories of faraway places -- go to
her room, read her Bible and pray. I wonder now if she ever prayed that
the stranger would leave.
You
see, my dad ruled our household with certain moral convictions. But
this stranger never felt obligation to honor them. Profanity, for example,
was not allowed in our house -- not from us, from our friends, or adults.
Our longtime visitor, however, used occasional four letter words that
burned my ears and made Dad squirm. To my knowledge the stranger was
never confronted. My dad was a teetotaler who didn't permit alcohol
in his home -- not even for cooking. But the stranger felt like we needed
exposure and enlightened us to other ways of life. He offered us beer
and other alcoholic beverages often.
He
made cigarettes look tasty, cigars manly, and pipes distinguished. He
talked freely (probably too much too freely) about sex. His comments
were sometimes blatant, sometimes suggestive, and generally embarrassing.
I know now that my early concepts of the man-woman relationship were
influenced by the stranger.
As
I look back, I believe it was the grace of God that the stranger did
not influence us more. Time after time he opposed the values of my parents.
Yet he was seldom rebuked and never asked to leave.
More
than thirty years have passed since the stranger moved in with the young
family on Morningside Drive. He is not nearly so intriguing to my Dad
as he was in those early years. But if I were to walk into my parents'
den today, you would still see him sitting over in a corner, waiting
for someone to listen to him talk and watch him draw his pictures.
His
name? I only knew him as TV.
Originally
published on the Christian Teen Page before merging with SloppyNoodle.com |