My parents don’t understand me


Yesterday on the news they reported that approximately 41% of women
who are pregnant are not married.

My heart breaks as I listen to many sad stories of people who are
depressed and suicidal. Often when I ask them what is troubling them,
they tell me how bitter and angry they are toward their parents.

Many are from dysfunctional or divorced homes, and have not learned
how to forgive and the power of prayer.

God continues to impress upon my heart how important it is to know what
our Creator and Father says in his word.

Studying the Bible helps us to grow in faith and become aware of what
God loves and hates. We learn spiritual warfare to fight the battles
in our mind and overcome evil with good.

In the fourth commandment, God says…

Honor your father and your mother, as the LORD your God
has commanded you, that your days may be long,
and that it may be well with you in the land
which the LORD your God is giving you.
Deuteronomy 5:16

This means that we should fear and love God, and not despise or anger our
parents, for they are a gift from God.

We should honor, serve, love, and obey them, because we love God, and believe
that in doing so, it brings blessings into our life.

The Apostle Paul wrote…

Honor thy father and mother;( which is first commandment with promise);
That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth.
Ephesians 6:2-3

God promises if we honor our parents, it will be well with us,
and we will live long on the earth.

Listen to your father, who gave you life, and do not despise
your mother when she is old. Proverbs 23:22

He who rebels against the authority, is rebelling against what God has
instituted, and those who do so will bring judgment on themselves.
Romans 13:2

Often the depression and anxiety attacks we experience, are warnings from the Holy Spirit,
telling us to repent of our bitterness and rebellion. The longer we ignore his warnings, we
allow satan to have a foothold in our mind. Our thoughts become impure and our heart
becomes as hard as stone.

Rebellion to God is like the sin of witchcraft and idolatry. (1 Samuel 15:23)

In Mark 7…Jesus told the Pharisees and scribes, they were being hypocrites by
not honoring their father’s and mother’s, according to God’s commandments.
They were doing lots of service for God, to get praise and admiration from men,
but were neglecting to take care of their parents. (vs. 9-14)

Even as Jesus hung on the cross dying for our sins, one of the last things he did was to
ask John to take care of his mother, as if she were his own. From that time forward
John took her to his own home and cared for her needs. (see John 29:25-27)

Even if your parents don’t treat you the way you wish they would,
honor and respect them as unto the LORD.

If a widow has children or grandchildren, these should learn first of all to
put their religion into practice by caring for their own family and so repaying
their parents and grandparents, for this is pleasing to God. 1 Timothy 5:4

Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the LORD. Colossians 3:20

Jesus was obedient to Joseph and Mary and submitted to their authority.

Even after we are grown, it’s important to God, to love and cherish our parents.
They are not to be cast aside to be forgotten and lonely.

When people see you respect and care for your parents, they’ll notice you’re different
than a world of people who are hardened and indifferent toward the elderly.

Rise in the presence of the aged, show respect for the elderly and revere your God.
Leviticus 19:32

Even after our parents are gone home to heaven, we can continue to honor
and respect their memory by speaking well of them. If they had nothing
admirable to be remembered for, it helps you, to forgive their mistakes,
and cover their behavior, in respect to God.

For HE chose your parents to watch over you.

I was blessed with Christian parents, and God has impressed on my heart that
where they failed, it was because they did not have that particular parenting
skill or value shown to them in their childhood, by their parents.

My father and mother both lost their father’s at an early age, so they had
a void in their life, and at times felt abandoned and sad.

My father’s dad died at the age of 37 from Tuberculosis. My mother’s father
was injured in the war and spent the rest of his life in a Veteran’s hospital.

They experienced intense trauma in their youth, and because of extreme poverty,
they both had to quit school and go to work to help support their families.

Knowing this helped me to realize their pain. They did the best they could to raise
me in a loving and secure home life.

In our world today, because of divorce or children born outside of marriage,
our youth often grow up with only half the parenting skills needed to fulfill their
own parenting responsibilities.

This is why it is vitally important to seek the wisdom from God’s word, who
is the loving Father of us all. He created us in His image, and continually
wants us to be conformed to the likeness of Jesus His son. He alone can fill
the voids in our lives and make us whole and complete.

The Bible says…

Can a woman forget her sucking child, that she should not have compassion
on the son of her womb? yea, they may forget, yet will I not forget thee.
Behold, I have graven thee upon the palms of my hands…Isaiah 49:15-16

Jesus submitted to a public baptism, even though he was perfect,
because he was following the command of his Father. When he rose
from the water, the heavens opened and the Spirit of God descended
like a dove upon him. A voice from heaven said…

This is My beloved Son, in whom I am well pleased. Matthew 3:17

By following Jesus’ example of submission in all things, God will honor us and
be faithful to his word.

Parents make mistakes, but forgive them as Christ has forgiven you.
If they treat you unfairly, pray for them, and trust God to be your
vindicator and protector.

Vengeance is mine, I will repay says the LORD.

Ask God to help you not have a bad attitude toward them. Your submissive
behavior, may well be the act of kindness that brings dramatic change to
your home and family. God says…Blessed are the peacemakers,
for they are the children of God.

A soft word, turns away wrath…so examine your words carefully.

David prayed, Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my
heart, be acceptable in your sight, O LORD, my strength and redeemer.

Jesus loved us so much that he laid down his life. He says in John 15:14…
You are My friends, if you do whatever I command you.

With Jesus as our friend, and God as our Father, we do not have to fear
authority of any kind.

If we continue in God’s word, we will know the truth and
we are free to live our lives in peace.

God’s word shines light into the darkness. It gives us hope and faith,
knowing he is in control of each minute of every day.

If you’ve been hurt or abused by a parent, I pray you will lay that burden down
at the foot of the cross today. What was done to you was wrong, but holding
that pain inside, will poison your body and ruin your life.

Let Jesus carry that pain for you and give you peace. He alone can heal
your broken heart and breathe life and strength into you again.

He promises to restore the years that were stolen from you.

Come precious one…
Confess your bitterness and anger to him.

He’s waiting with open arms to love and comfort you.

He promises to never leave you or forsake you.

When my father and my mother forsake me, then the LORD will take me up.
Wait on the LORD: be of good courage, and he shall strengthen thine heart;
wait, I say, on the LORD. Psalm 27:10,14
As one whom his mother comforteth, so will I comfort you…

Isaiah 66:13

Heavenly Father, Holy is Your name…

Thank you for the gift of this beautiful new day. Please forgive us for the

filthy failures of our past. With the blood of Jesus, cover our sins.

Cleanse and make us pure and holy for You are Holy.

Reprogram our thoughts and desires to be ones that are pleasing in Your eyes.

Thank you for continually providing for all our needs, no matter how small

or big they may seem. Help us to walk in love and self control, through the power

of the Holy Spirit. Teach us to examine our words before we speak, and only say

those words which will build up or encourage others.

Father we lift up prayers to you for all who are struggling with difficult trials or illness.

Please strengthen their faith and help them grow in wisdom and knowledge. Reveal to

us any areas of our lives that are blocking our spiritual growth or healing. Give us

power, through the Holy Spirit, to be vessels of light in the midst

of our adversities. If it be your will let this cup of suffering pass from

them, never the less, not our will, but thine be done.

We trust You to provide, council, protect, comfort and nourish us all.

We lift up prayers to you for all parents. Help them to be godly examples to

their children and families. Give them patience and show them how to lead

their children to Jesus, so they will never walk alone. Help them to schedule

their days, to always make time for You and for their children…

This is an important step to revival and change in our world.

We lift up prayers to you for all who have been neglected or abused.

Comfort and protect them from harm and danger. Bind the hands of evil

that would harm your children and keep them safe in your loving arms.

Release all safely who have been abducted or are enslaved with incest

or child pornography. Find loving parents for your children and bless

the institution of marriage. Heal the broken homes and families that

have been torn apart by divorce, homosexuality, or adultery as only you

can. With you, all things are possible.

We lift up prayers to you for all women who have aborted their children. Call them to

your side and help them to heal from their painful mistakes. What they did was wrong,

but we ask for you to be merciful to them. Help them to see their sin, from your eyes,

so they may go and sin no more.

We lift up prayers to you for all the precious children who are in their

mother’s wombs this very moment. Protect them and teach their parents

how to raise the children you have entrusted to their care, according to your will.

Help them to train up the children in the way they should go, so when they are old,

they will not depart from your law and commands.

We lift up prayers to you for all who are spiritual parents. Help us to live a godly life

and set an example for children who desperately need mentors to love and

pray for them. Show us the children who need our help, love, and prayers…

So the next generation will be strong in their faith and service toward You.

We give thanks to you Holy Father, for allowing us to be your children.

As a father pities his children, You pity those who fear and love You.

We believe you are able to do exceedingly, abundantly above all we

could ever hope, ask, or think.

In Jesus’ name we pray… Amen

From a child thou hast know the holy scriptures, which are able to make thee wise

unto salvation through faith which is in Christ Jesus. 2 Timothy 3:15

Your sister and servant of the LORD,

Valerie Rousseau

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  1. What about those parents who abuse (physically, emotionally or just plan neglect) their children? Your saying that they have to honor those parents, I believe that God did chose those parents for those children, but that it was to make them stronger. to make them wiser, to feed fuel to a passionate fire for one reason or another. Those children, those who see God there, usually become adults that change the world for the better. That make better laws for future abused children.

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