Comments on: Nine Lies Women Tell Themselves About Men – by Julie Ferwerda

By: Kaitlin H.

Kaitlin H. — Sat, 13 Mar 2010 19:44:48 +0000

Hey Phoebe, no offense but I don’t think you read the articles closely enough.

the article specifically said

, “True godly men live to please God and not their own selfish desires. They honor women as the treasure they are, treating them with absolute purity as Jesus would have done. They care more about the purity of their Christian sisters than a quick thrill for the moment. Sex before marriage is a sin and if a guy is pressuring, he doesn’t care about what God thinks and he doesn’t care about you either.”

Thats biblical right there.

Like Terry said… there can’t be fence sitting in Christianity. There are things different in WHO women and men are and how men made them differently. One of those nine lies are almost guaranteed to go through every person’s mind.

The point of this article is to call for reform, and put faith to action.

If anyone is sick of that or against Jesus being Glorified through our actions… you’re on a path to Hell.

By: vanessa

vanessa — Wed, 01 Jul 2009 18:24:54 +0000

i agree with phoebe with the stereotyping thing but you will not fully get the article until you have been thru everything stated lyk i av..n i COMPLETELY agree with it…tru der are men dat will be lyk dey will wait for u until ur ready to av sex (girls luv it wen their bf say dis coz dey feel very respected) hweva ders only a lng tym a boy can wait without any sexual relations sum of dese boys will begin seekin other lustful interests such as porn or masturbation to get their minds off sleepin with their gfs and sumtym more pressure is put on the grls..a tru boy dat luvs u will wait until marriage…no other sexual desires n dedicate himself 2 help u stay pure…also a true boy will love God before u…for only wen a boy luvs God b4 his gf n himself will he treate a grl the best way possible n especialli as God wants him to treate her…also it is tru that we u luv sum1 uv got to let them go and its also tru that if ur destined 2 b with sum1 no matter wat lyf will thro at u, u will always get bk 2getha even after 20 years..hweva onli if it is God’s plan

By: Phoebe

Phoebe — Mon, 25 May 2009 19:29:10 +0000

Hey. To be completely honest with you I don’t like either of these two articles about lies men/women tell themselves about women/men. I think you are stereotyping both sexes quite a bit. What you say maybe true for many but you say it as if every man only wants sex and every woman is very gullible and believes that men are like the ones in movies. I hope you see what I mean. I’m just tired of being stereotyped

By: Rey

Rey — Wed, 25 Mar 2009 18:29:35 +0000

I would like to address Lee’s comments. I am a male – 27 yrs old and I am a practicing christian. Men can be tricksters when ready. The younger guys hang around older men who “train” them to “talk to women”. This “talk” would include what to say to women to make them fall in love with them.They also teach them how to be romantic with the young women and they learn how to treat them wonderfully – lavish them with gifts, attention, flowers, sweet comments, clothes, money etc. Young males that want to keep the girl (atleast for the short term) wont generally “pressure her sexually”. They wont do this because they know that this might scare her off so.. they would just wait until she weakens and makes her “own choice” and gives in- This makes the female feel like ‘ he understands me and he is a gentleman because he is not about sex-… or they would seek sexual favours elsewhere. Now if the young female decides that she wants to have sex for whatever reason… the young man (who has been waiting) would not think twice about engaging in intercourse. Now, from a spiritual perspective, you have stated that you are christian, so that means that you believe and abide by the bible. You would know that God is love and despite what Hollywood and the internation media portrays love is…we know that only true love comes from God… and… that if you are not a “full-blown christian” .. this means that you are luke-warm.. and this obviously displeases God and can disconnect you from Him (he would spew you from his mouth! – Rev3:16). All of this is not a condemnation or judgement of your spiritual character but just an encouragement for you to get right with God first, and TRUE love would come abounding after. Believe me, the struggles that you state that you are going through can be helped by God once you hand over your life COMPLETELY to him! Good luck and stay sexually pure!

By: Terry

Terry — Wed, 25 Mar 2009 17:59:37 +0000

“though he is not full blown christian, not that i am either, but we beileve in god, ”

Here is the problem sweetie.

You are either a Christian or you are not. There is no fence to sit on. While we maybe at different stages of maturity, EVERY Christian has a responsiblity to be obedient to God’s Word. If you obey God’s Word, like fleeing youthful lusts and the very appearance of evil etc, it won’t be so hard to stay pure.

Remember the devil is the father of lies. Until you fully commit your life to God and bring your heart and mind under the subjection of God’s Word and the Holy Spirit, you will always be deceived by the enemy (who by the way wants to take you out).

The Bible says:

Many a man proclaims his own loyalty, But who can find a trustworthy man? Proverbs 20:6

Thus says the LORD, “Cursed is the man who trusts in mankind And makes flesh his strength, And whose heart turns away from the LORD. Jeremiah 17:5

Be very careful. Jesus should ALWAYS be number ONE in your life!

Truth spoken in love!

By: Lee

Lee — Tue, 27 Jan 2009 13:51:52 +0000

i disagree…i am sorry but i know my boyfriend is always telling the truth to me and i trust him and love him and we have been through sitautions so we do know each other…he doesnt pressure me sexually and is always respectful and caring, though he is not full blown christian, not that i am either, but we beileve in god, i am just further down the walk, but still he knows the truth about waiting until marriage and though its hard we stick by that…i know i love him, truley love him, the kind of forever thing…and i knw he feels the same…