When my father and mother forsake me…


As crime and violence increases in our world, it is vitally important for us to turn to
scripture and find ways to solve this growing problem.

I read recently that approximately 60% of rapists and 70% of those who commit other
crimes like murder or stealing come from fatherless homes.

One of our spiritual sons who was released from prison called the other day
excited to tell my husband and I what God was doing in his life. He thanked my husband
for being my spiritual father, because he never knew his biological one.

Our children are ending up in prison or hurting themselves or one another,
because we refuse to live according to God’s laws.

The Bible says…
Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.
Colossians 3:21

Brothers and sisters, it’s time to stand up and take responsibility for
raising our children.

Children are a blessing from the LORD and are to be treated with love and
respect. They are not a mistake or burden.

The Bible says…
Lo, children are an heritage of the LORD: and the fruit of the womb is his reward.
Psalm 127:3

If God trusts you with his precious seed, then you need to feed and nurture it…
so it will grow up and become the godly man or woman they were created to be.

Jesus loves little children and told us,

Whosoever shall receive one of such children in my name, receiveth me.
John 9:37

He warned us not to harm or despise children.

Whosoever shall offend one of these little ones that believe in me, it is better for
him that a millstone were hanged about his neck, and he were cast into the sea.
Mark 9:42

Millions of babies are aborted each year because people refuse to take
responsibility for their actions.

Over 50% of marriages end in divorce and millions of children are now
born outside the sanctity of marriage.

These precious little ones feel alone and abandoned when their parents
reject and refuse to provide for them.

Thousands are abused by their parents or are subjected to incest by their
parents sex partners.

As they grow up they try to drown their sorrow and pain with drugs, sex, or alcohol.
Millions suffer from eating disorder, cut themselves, or are suicidal.

Many join gangs just to find acceptance and companionship.

As Christians we need to fill in the gap and stand up for the helpless.

We are to love one another, as Jesus loves us.

He sacrificially laid down his life, and we need to reach out in love
to preserve the sanctity of marriage and the family.

Beloved, you may have been abandoned or rejected by your parents
but God sent me to reach out to you in love…

The Bible says…
When my father and my mother forsake me, then the LORD will take me up.
Psalm 27:10

Like as a father pitieth his children, so the LORD pitieth them that fear him.
Psalm 103:13

Before you were ever formed in the womb, God knew you. He knit you
in your mother’s womb and has a plan and purpose for your life.

His thoughts toward you are more than the sands of the sea.
The very hairs of your head are numbered and he wants to heal
and protect you.

He loved you so much he sent his son Jesus to die for your sins on the
cross at Calvary. He rose from the grave and now is in heaven creating
a place for you.

The Bible says…
For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the LORD, thoughts of peace,
and not of evil, to give you an expected end. Jeremiah 29:11

I urge you lay your pain at the foot of the cross.

Jesus said, come to me all you who are weary and heavy laden.
I will give you rest.

He asks us to honor our parents, and forgive them.

Jesus said, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you,
do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which
despitefully use you, and persecute you;
That ye may be the children of your Father which is in heaven.

Matthew 5:44-45

He understands your pain because he was beaten, spit upon,

and nailed to a cross unjustly…

yet he prayed…

Father, forgive them; for they know not what they do. Luke 23:34

He knows how if feels to be abandoned by your father because on
the cross he cried out in agony, My God, My God, Why have you forsaken

Ephesians 1:1-3 says…
Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right.
Honor thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise:
that it may be well with thee; and thou mayest live long on the earth.

Beloved, your parents may have treated you horribly, but you have a heavenly Father
who can heal your pain and restore to you the years that have been stolen from you.

Forgive your parents for their failures and ask God to erase those negative
thoughts from your mind and heart. He will bless you for this sacrificial gift
of love.

If we refuse to forgive, the Bible says, our Father in heaven will not forgive us.

Precious one…today, draw a line in the sand with Jesus’ blood and break the curse of
bitterness, poverty, failure, sexual impurity, and divorce.

Trust the LORD to be your judge and vindicator. He is fair and merciful.

Put the sins of your parents on Jesus’ account and be set free from this day forward.

Open God’s word and read hundreds of promises of blessings for you and your children.

You are a chosen generation, a royal priesthood, a holy nation. God has called you out
of darkness into his marvelous light.

Jesus is standing at the door of your heart, with arms open wide to welcome you into our

You are special to God and to me.

Let’s pray…

Father I confess to you that I’ve held anger and resentment toward my parents.
They despised and rejected me, but I choose to forgive them, by the power of
the Holy Spirit. Your word says, when my father and mother forsake me, You
will lift me up.

Pick me up out of the pit of pity and pain. I give you my fears and failures of the
past. Cover me and my family with your blood Jesus and make us whole.
I give you the shattered pieces of my life and ask you to transform me
into a godly person. I give you my body as a living sacrifice from this day
forward. I surrender all and ask you to guide each step of my day according
to your will. I believe Jesus died for my sins and you remember them against
me no more. Thank you for adopting me as your child from this day forward.
Help me to grow in wisdom and faith. Enable me to become a compassionate
and loving parent, mentor, spouse, and friend. I can do all things through
Christ who strengthens me. In the blessed name of Jesus I pray.

Divorce is such an ugly disease.

For years the hate and lies will breed.

We’re trapped in a prison of self-pity and pride.

And in the past…we continually hide.

Our children are suffering and dying inside.

They’re searching for love, that they cannot find.

For we are too busy… to notice their pain.

So now they find comfort from drugs, sex, and gangs.

The example’s we’ve set have led them astray.

We have to go back to the Lord’s plan today.

God’s word will provide the direction you need.

To give them the values and love that they seek.

You will not be sorry you sought out God’s will.

Your life will be blessed and your heart will be filled.

With joy in seeing your children now grown…

Are strong through the Lord, and are never alone.

Observe and hear all these words which I command thee,

that it may go well with thee, and with thy children after

thee forever, when thou doest that which is good and right

in the sight of the Lord thy God…

What thing soever I command you, observe
to do it: Thou shalt not add thereto, nor
diminish from it. Deut. 12:28 & 32

Your sister and servant of the LORD,

Valerie Rousseau

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  1. I ran into this today. I always feel as if my mother hates me. I’m 18 now and I no longer stay with her and I was thinking about how she trashed my childhood years. I forgive her now but it seems like she still hates me. I just googled the psalm and I found this and I read it and right now I find myself crying. Thank you for this beautiful post. God bless

  2. I’m 40 saw a movie with LL cool J in it and this scripture was shared in it and I had to look it up and came across this today I want to give up, and read this and it matters because it matters to God so I think I’m going to find Christian counselling because I don’t want to forgive her but I no that God can not forgive me if I don’t. But I don’t no how in my Heart cause when I try, shes always doing or saying something to pull it all back out and I’m so very angry with her.I pray God blesses your heart thank you for sharing.and for the whole post and first of Thank you Our God!!! for allowing to lead us to here.

  3. This was so pround that I needed it. My daughter & I were close at one time. She’s mix up and in love. We were in a house invasion last April. I was beaten with guns. I asked Lord at that “is this what felt like when beat you?”At that moment I did feel thing!

    His reply to me was I have covered, trust in Me.

    My daughter was not physically her.

    I took the beating for so they wouldn’t her.

    I know that God is with ALLthe time!

  4. Thank you soo much for this post. I was always taught to honor your mother and father. However, I was not ready to deal with both my Mother and Father completely forsaking me in times where I needed their love the most. God wants us to forgive but how do we still honor our parents when they forsake us? I have always had respect for my parents but does God just want me to remain quiet and not stand up to my parents and let them know how much pain they are causing and have caused me? I forgive them both but I see the same thing happening in my siblings lives. How can I open my parents eyes but also remain respectful?

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